Do you ever have moments when you feel like you aren’t good enough, rich enough, smart enough, sexy enough, or strong enough to create the life you really want?

If you're part of the human species, the answer to that question is most likely “yes.” :-)  We have all had uncomfortable and sometimes heart wrenching moments of being immersed in the experience of “not enough”. You are definitely not alone. 

These kind of joy sucking “not enough” moments are part of every person’s experience at some point. The illusion of “not enough” is one of humanity's core issues, and the source of a great deal of pain, discontent, and deep down suffering. It feels really bad to be in this place, whether you visit it daily, hourly, or occasionally.​

​On the surface it may look like we diverse humans all have very different challenges, paths of discovery, kinds of wounds, and woeful stories, yet the illusion of "not enough" is a common factor that is part of every person's psyche to a greater or lesser degree.

​“Not enough” has many faces…

• ​It shows up when you feel like you don't have enough love, respect, appreciation, companionship, money, or support in your life.
• It shows up when you feel like you are not smart enough, strong enough, creative enough, rich enough, or attractive enough.
• It shows up when you feel like you don’t have enough time in the day and are easily overwhelmed by your seemingly insurmountable responsibilities no matter how hard you try or how much you sweat.

The illusion of “not enough” is the perfect breeding ground for feelings of inadequacy, unworthiness, insecurities, and toxic self doubt. It is the underlying issue that can give rise to intimacy deflecting arrogance and the need to control anything and everything that moves, especially the folks you love the most. When this shadowy illusion rears one of its many fire breathing dark and gnarly heads, we feel like we lack something precious and essential, and then we act accordingly. We get our crazy on and act out in any number of unattractive and destructive ways. I know what you're thinking... "been there, done that". We all have.

Sadly, when we are snagged by "not enough", the world around us, especially the people in our lives, also appear to be seriously lacking and oh so obviously defective. Because we humans are such natural creative geniuses (yes, that includes you), what we carry in our psyche is constantly being projected to those around us. Even when it's not true. :-) What we carry internally is the biggest creative force in our lives, even when we deny, repress, resist, and disown these internal forces.

Some people work hard to prove to themselves and others that they are indeed enough by becoming high achievers or perfectionists. Our twisted cultural expectations reflect the collective entrenchment of this core issue at every turn, projecting extreme images of perfection in all areas of life. There is little collective understanding that we are all learning, growing, and evolving in different areas at radically different paces. The collective "we" often forgets that each person is simple trying to live their version of a fulfilling life with the cards they have been dealt. When these idealized, high achieving, perfectionist expectations are in full swing, compassion, acceptance, patience, and loving kindness are easily and sometimes eagerly thrown out the window. The desire to be "better than" often steps in to fill the void.

While the feelings associated with inadequacy can be unconscious catalysts for some to constantly strive for perfection and high achievement, others collapse into feeling “not enough” and live as if this illusion really is true. They stop trying, give up on going for what is truly inspiring, and settle for a life of mediocrity, or even full blown defeat. Ouch! 
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Most of us find our way somewhere between these two extremes of constant striving and giving up.

Our media driven culture rubs salt in this tender wounds at every turn. Images of perfection are thrown before us at a staggering rate, often heavily directed towards eager to please women. In some circles, you are only considered successful if you are slim and fit, eternally youthful, have a six-figure career that is changing the world for the better, a perfectly decorated Dwell worthy house, two ultra charming, intelligent and talented children, and a husband who is even more stellar as you are.

This may be a bit overblown, yet at every turn someone is trying to convince us that living up to these kind of unrealistic ideals is the way to happiness, peace of mind, a big fat bank account, multiple orgasms, nirvana, and everything else you will ever want. Most purveyors of these images have something to sell. They promise to help us get to the promised land so we can finally feel like we are indeed "enough", with a capital "E". 

Despite knowing better, we all get sucked into “not enough” to some degree or another, in some area or another. Not because the collective ideals are truly right or healthy and even that attractive to us, but because we want to have fulfilling lives.

We want to belong. We want to get it right. We want to courageously love and be loved. We want to create brilliance and achieve greatness, to give back and be healthy, to do right by our children and our community. We really, truly want to live good lives and have it all. 

Yet, in the midst of all these cultural projections of the ideal we can lose touch with our unique internal vision of living a soulful and fulfilling life.

We lose touch with what is uniquely "enough" for each one of us. 

Even though we can sometimes clearly see right through these sometimes distorted ideals about what defines a successful happy life, we still get caught in them. The insidious illusion of “not enough” silently hooks and traps us at every turn.

I have found traces of “not enough” in every client I have worked with. It lies at the heart of many relationship and financial challenges. It blocks bold and exuberant creativity and the natural celebratory spirit that accompanies realistic achievement. 

The good news is that there are ways to release yourself from the insidious grasp of this often covert issue so you can deeply realize and express your innate beauty, brilliance, and strength. When this core issue is consciously worked with, everything in your life improves. I mean everything!

Because of its pervasive nature, I have created this free course so you can begin to liberate yourself from the grip of “not enough". This introductory course provides a series of unique and powerful processes and practices that are most effective when done each day for 14 days. This course will guide you through a process of inquiry that will bring about new awareness and loosen the grip of this issue in your life so you can feel more inner peace, self acceptance, confidence, and clarity about following your unique life path. The course material will be delivered to your inbox each morning for the next 14 days. Simple enter your email address at the top of this page. And did I mention it's free? :-)

As you embrace this process of inquiry and expansion, please hold yourself in tender, safe, loving, and compassionate arms, ever remembering that we are all here to learn and grow. 

You are fine, and whole and exquisitely beautiful right now, without having to do or fix anything.

Begin to think of yourself as a flower that is in the process of opening. Is the bud any more perfect or beautiful or valuable than the fully blossoming flower? Each stage along the way of unfoldment has its own distinct beauty, just like you do in each moment of the process of more fully experiencing and sharing your awesome beauty and glory. This course is a catalyst for your further blossoming. It offers water and nutrients, warmth and light so you can gracefully come more fully into your own, and shine more brilliantly than ever. 

With heart,
​Ariana

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