A fresh start…
I feel brighter just writing these powerful words. Rich images come to mind. The soft smooth skin of a newborn baby; the first daffodils that raise their tender green leaves in early spring; the warm feeling of reconciliation after a disagreement with your beloved; a crisp clean piece of watercolor paper eager to be filled with your inspiration.
A fresh start is so juicy because for just a moment we stand in a powerful place where anything is possible, where our inner inspiration can be expressed in new ways upon the fresh canvas of our lives.
Imagine living every day in this fresh clear place of infinite possibility.
Close your eyes, take a deep full breath and really do this…
Imagine a day with no unfinished business, no painful memories, no projections about the people around you, and best of all, no preconceived ideas about who you are and what you can accomplish. Imagine leaving behind your old dysfunctional patterns of behavior, and replacing them with fuller presence, love, and expanded creative potential.
Take a moment and savor this possibility for your life, not just as a random experience, but as a way of life. We touch upon this rich fresh quality now and then, but imagine it being part of every single day. Pretty awesome to think about, isn’t it?
This is the gift of Energy Psychology. This emerging new field offers leading edge transformational technology that is changing millions of lives for the better.
Energy Psychology is based upon the premise that negative emotions and behavior patterns are the result of blockages in a person’s energy system. As energy blockages are cleared, the natural healing force within is activated. You then experience a “clean slate”, and a renewed capacity to step gracefully out of the old patterns and emotions that no longer serve you.
Some techniques of Energy Psychology include stimulating pressure points in the body’s meridian system with gentle pressure. Acupuncturists have been stimulating points in the meridian system to restore health and well being to the physical body for thousands of years. It is now possible to use acupressure points to restore emotional and psychological health and well being as well.
Clearing these energy blockages is often a rapid and graceful process that can be attained without doing years of therapy or feeling re-traumatized by the past.
You can’t change the past, but you can change the imprint it has left on you.
Energy Psychology offers proven techniques to heal and release negative emotions and imprints that hinder your capacity to create healthy, fulfilling relationships in your life right now.
The really good news is that these innovative techniques are being tried and tested through a multitude of scientific studies. There is now solid research to prove the effectiveness of these innovative EP techniques. Energy Psychology professional skills courses are now accepted for continuing education credits for PhD psychologists by the American Psychological Association! This is fabulous news because the APA has incredibly high standards. Research is proving that Energy Psychology is valid and highly effective.
Leading edge Energy Psychology techniques are a vital part of my practice as a relationship coach and energy therapist. I use them to help clients heal and transform the issues that get in the way of experiencing fulfilling, loving relationships with all of the people in their lives.
In a relatively short time, you can even learn to do some of the Energy Psychology techniques yourself so you can clear challenging emotions that arise in day to day life.
Remember that clean slate you imagined a few minutes ago?
Now close your eyes again and imagine having a clean slate in every one of your relationships…
Imagine… all of your past expectations and grievances gone.
Imagine… any sadness or guilt, regrets or mistakes related to your relationships completely healed and transformed. You still remember the past, yet you have forgiven and released old grievances, learned from them, and are willing to start anew…
Imagine… gracefully transforming or releasing those relationships that no longer serve you….
Imagine… being able to create new kinds of relationships based upon the present, and who you are now…
And best of all, imagine love and compassion quite naturally flowing onto your fresh blank canvas!
This month I am offering a limited number of introductory energy psychology phone sessions at no charge. This is an opportunity for you to explore this innovative new way to create lasting and profound change for the better. If you are interested in trying this powerfully transformative process, simply send me an email to schedule an appointment.
With love and gratitude,
As promised, I am sending you messages of love this holiday season. The first one I sent, 360 Degrees of Love, struck a cord with so many people.
Today, I offer you an opportunity to be steeped in a vast love that transcends time and space and the sometimes narrow confines of how we often conceive of love.
This video is short, intense and amazing. It left me speechless and unsettled in a way that only deep truth can do. It shouts of 360 degree love; of a love shared by two that is so big it blesses the entire universe.
If you have ever loved... watch it.
If you have ever lost someone you love... watch it.
If you have ever yearned to define or touch Spirit... watch it.
With bright starry love,
This has been an amazing week, filled with many different experiences; with great highs and lows. Tonight I feel compelled to share my Thanksgiving experience with you.
I opted to stay home last week rather than travel. On Thanksgiving Day I feasted with dear friends, had Face time gatherings with family members who were miles away, and joyfully communed with the magnificent evergreens in my neighborhood. It was all rich and deeply satisfying. Gratitude pulsed through me, getting stronger as the day unfolded.
Feeling full and warm all over, that evening I snuggled down to watch a DVD with a Native American theme, thinking this would be fitting for Thanksgiving night viewing. After a few minutes of watching I was quickly carried away by the beauty and peacefulness of the native way of life so beautifully portrayed. The characters soon made their way into my grateful heart. All was well until the tribe was suddenly brutally slaughtered. I felt shock go through my entire being. It was all so wrong! Sobs wracked my body as I continued to watch and grieve.
I gently reminded myself that the Natives Americans were simply actors who hadn’t really been slaughtered, yet this theme was hitting too close to home. Last year, my beloved partner suddenly passed away. Since then, I have deeply grieved. Several months ago the oppressive sadness began to lift as gratitude and acceptance settled into my heart and mind.
Suddenly there I was in full blown grief again, dealing with it all alone on a holiday. As hard as it was to feel this depth of pain yet again, I knew this was right where I needed to be. I had come a long way, yet there was more grieving to do. Amidst the sadness, overwhelming waves of love for my beloved partner engulfed me. These were intense moments of feeling both the depth and height of human love all at once. Love and loss, all in one breath.
As I sobbed and breathed, I remembered an experience that happen shortly after my beloved died. In the weeks following his death, I felt overwhelming love for him, sometimes even more powerfully then I felt when he was alive. I often felt his presence encircling and comforting me. At times I could hear and feel him communicating from afar.
On one particularly hard afternoon I felt so much love for him I thought my heart would burst. Although I believe he received my love on some level, it felt like my intense love didn’t have a place to land. I was silently asking about what to do with all these feelings when I heard my beloved’s voice say, “Let go of the “you” in “I love you”. Live in “I love”.
As I heard these words I felt like a lightening bolt went right through me. I knew exactly what he meant. Living in “I love” meant letting go of my narrow focus on him, a singular object of love, and instead, expanding to love all. Of course! Instead of focussing my love on my partner like a magnifying glass, I was to be a vibrant ball of love radiating in all directions. He was calling me to be a vibrant sun, shining upon all life within and around me, shining 360 degrees of love!
My crying stopped and I began to get excited about living 360 degrees of love more fully than ever. As I paused and breathed, I also understood a deeper meaning to his words of wisdom. “I love” was not just about love as an expansive way of being. Living as “I love” was about more fully identifying as love, as in “I am love”.
To live fully in that mode would demand letting go of my illusions about who I think I am, which all negate my identity as pure love. All of the moments when I think I am: a woman, a therapist, a coach, a mother, a lover, an American, aging, sad, angry, and on and on, negate the truth that I am essentially love.
I am love, temporarily manifesting as a woman, a mother, a therapist, and so forth.
On Thanksgiving night, as I remembered this experience from months before, I was filled again with gratitude and peace. In this moment of sacred remembrance, I felt love flowing more freely within and around me. This expansive awareness was yet another precious parting gift from my beloved.
If you are on the path of growth and awakening, the idea of being love is definitely not new. Maybe is isn’t even very interesting any more. We aren’t often interested in the ideas we think we already know about.
Yet I believe there is no more noble or worthy pursuit than living and embodying 360 degrees of love.
Understanding this idea is very different from actualizing it as a way of life. We embrace the ways of love and then we forget them, again and again. I have dedicated myself to the embodiment of love; to living 360 degrees of love as fully as I am capable. Maybe you have done so as well. If not, I invite you to join me.
This is a group effort that cannot be done alone. As each of us endeavors to shine love into all the dark places within and arounds us, we spark each other in ways unimaginable.
I feel compelled to share my journey of embodied love, as well as tools and practices to inspire our collective radiance, which is what “I love” is really all about. This season of gratitude and giving is an ideal time to go deeper into living 360 degrees of love. In the coming weeks I’ll be sending you “gifts” to spark the embodiment of love. I invite you to savor these gifts and freely pass them on.
I also invite you to send me your stories and insights about living 360 degrees of love. I’ll be passing on the juiciest ones.
I believe that we all made a commitment to live 360 degrees of love when we came into these physical bodies. Yet it is so easy to forget this sacred promise. During this holiday season, let’s gently, lovingly remind each other of what we are really here for…. to live 360 degrees of love!
here is a particular flavor of love that grabs you firmly, lifts you up, and takes you for a wild, tumultuous ride.
When you touch the earth again you realize all the bumps and bruises and otherwise painful moments of your entire life were all part of love’s caress. Every touch was kneading the fear and sadness from deep within; leaving you open and tender like never before so you could, at last, truly know big, bold love.
After this kind of love has its way with you, your whole being feels soft and supple like babies’ skin; free from the inevitable weathering and scaring that used to tell your story. This kind of love writes a new tale on every cell of your body.
When it ripples through me I want to shout out my delight and tell everyone I meet the good news about how totally freakin' amazing life can be. This super charged kind of love reminds me of my favorite flavor of ice cream, Mint Chip. Refreshing, sweet and creamy, interspersed with the stimulating promise and richness of dark chocolate. Yum.
Being deliciously cherished doesn't mean you wake up one day to discover the ideal mate or the perfect relationship; or that the inevitable challenges and flaws that take you away from love's deepest pulse aren't regular visitors in your home. It simply means that everything that transpires in the relationship is held within a particularly rich and satisfying context.
Imagine having a warm cup of cocoa on a cool winter night. Are you savoring it? :-) Well, now imagine that same cup of cocoa with a dollop of whipped cream on top. Assuming you love whipped cream (and doesn't just about everyone?), that cup of cocoa is going to rise from being really good to being magnificent. That is what being deliciously cherished feels like. Love with whipped cream on top!
I first experienced being deliciously cherished when I was a young woman. At that tender point in life I didn't recognize this kind of love for the rare and precious gift it was. In my ignorance, I let it go. To be more accurate, I repeatedly stomped on it, and then ran far, far away. Years later I came to know this kind of deeply penetrating love in a more mature and enduring package.
My deepest wish is for all women (and all men!) to know this kind of bold love, and to be liberated by it potent force. This is the most profound and enduring kind of Women’s Liberation, having nothing to do with equal pay or equal opportunity. For once a woman is deliciously cherished, she inevitably becomes a liberating force for others, magically opening doors to greater love and kindness and creativity wherever she travels. And the man who cherishes her becomes the recipient of gifts unimaginable as her particular flavor of feminine magic is sparked and set free.
Deep love between men and women is quietly accomplishing what our political and educational systems have not been able to do with much success. It is ever so slowly and quietly changing our world for the better.
I say to men everywhere: if you want a better life, if you want to make a difference, if you want to experience all the riches of this world.... then love a woman like she has never been loved before.
When you discover a woman who is ready to be cherished and is longing for You, and only you (and only you can know if this is so), soften the protection around your heart and love her with “no pads on”. Silently lay down your defenses, and risk to love with everything you've got. Love her as if this is the most profound and significant action you could ever take.
When you love her wholeheartedly, despite her particular flavor of “craziness”, her love handles, or her neediness; your world will be rocked and enriched like never before. And so will mine and every other creature on this planet. The ripples really are that big.
Shining Big Love,
An energy therapist, relationship and spiritual life coach, Ariana is a lover of love in all of its many delicious forms; self love, couples love, family love, community love and ultimately, the universal love that pervades all.